Sitemap - 2023 - Sex and the State

The two most beautiful things I experienced in 2023

We need to talk about Javier Milei's dogs

Sex and the State's most-loved of 2023

Why I'm afraid of taking people's money

Thoughts on Javier Milei from a former libertarian

H4H 20: The Huntsville Housing Authority's untold history

TV Tuesdays 49: Frasier!

Trafficking hysteria as rape fantasy

Beat loneliness by fighting with your friends

Why I'm childfree

H4H 19: Homelessness in Huntsville: No, it’s not mental health

TV Tuesdays 48: A Murder at the End of the World

The perfect gift

What gets me out of bed in the morning

The moms for whom parenthood is easiest enjoy it least

H4H 18: Housing racism 101: Notes on The Color of Law

TV Tuesdays 47: A Murder at the End, Gilded Age, Golden Bachelor finale

What happened to the GOP and conservatism since I left Alabama

H4H pod 16: Mike Tanner on five policies that actually reduce homelessness

TV Tuesdays 46: Napoleon and other Ghosts

One weird trick for reducing sexual assault in churches

My eyeball has me thinking more about rest

H4H Pod bonus ep: Mike Tanner on 5 policies that actually solve homelessness

H4H Pod ep 16: Why is one unit of subsidized housing $400,000 in Huntsville?

TV Tuesdays 45: A very special R&C

Crying to the Afghan Whigs outside the housing summit

Neoliberalism vs IFS

Activism update: New podcast appearance

H4H Pod ep 15: Remus Bowden on housing racism

TV Tuesdays 44: A very special R&C

The Parts I am inclined to push away

Alanis Morissette and No Bad Parts

H4H Pod ep 14: Public input and why Mill Creek needs more units

TV Tuesdays 43: Avast, ye mateys!

Naming parts of myself

The two kinds of people who most need therapy

H4H Pod ep 13: Eshan Pokhrel, co-founder of PB Political

TV Tuesdays 42: We've been busy (watching three shows)

Sex and the most secure attachment yet

H4H Pod ep 12: Mill Creek, public housing, and radon

TV Tuesdays 41: Our Flag Means Death Season 1

Activism update

Maybe my dead grandma was autistic?

H4H Pod ep 11: Elijah Boyd on the special election for Alabama house district 10

TV Tuesdays 40: The Golden Bachelor

When you should quit your startup

H4H Pod ep 10: Joy Johnson on Huntsville politics and progressivism

TV Tuesdays 39: MILF Manor

Loneliness may not be an epidemic, but it’s a very real problem

What I find intolerable

H4H Pod ep 9: There’s a better way to provide affordable housing in District 5

TV Tuesdays 38: The rest of Fleishman is in Trouble

Shame, obesity, and The Girlfriends

Science: Never marry a man who's skinnier than you

H4H Pod ep 8: The new Huntsville Sustainability Commission’s ideal number-one priority

TV Tuesdays 37: Fleishman is in Trouble

The non-zoning parts of Martha's Vineyard part 1

Reading zoning ordinances on vacation

Housing for Huntsvillians ep 7: Murray Edmondson

No R&C Watch TV bc I'm on vacation!

I feel like I need to…

Housing for Huntsvillians ep 6: Jaxon Tolbert

Why do I want to feel abundance about money?

I actually won at therapy this week

The relationship I want to have with money

New Housing for Huntsvillians: The Podcast

TV Tuesdays 36: Girls, girls, girls (& a Star Trek)

My highest ROI activity

Our first Housing for Huntsvillians Podcast interview

TV Tuesdays 35: Solar Opposites Season 4

One weird trick for improving every aspect of your life

My moral responsibilities as a podcaster

TV Tuesdays 34: One last Queen Charlotte & The Bear

All in due time

My whole life I’ve focused on knowing things

TV Tuesdays 33: Ted Lasso Season 3 part 3 & Queen Charlotte

Friday night in Huntsville

Friday diary 46: I'm quitting my job. My coworkers suck.

Introducing: Housing for Huntsvillians

Obsessing over Huntsville homelessness

TV Tuesdays 32: Ted Lasso Season 3 part 2

Chatting with Rico

Friday diary 45: What's next

Welcome to the neoliberal fold, AOC

Learning 2 organize in D.C. - day 2 of NLAS

TV Tuesdays 31: Ted Lasso Season 3

Learning 2 organize in D.C. - day 1 of NLAS

Friday diary 44: I'm on vacation

5 potential reasons fertility is down

Abuse is not black-and-white

TV Tuesdays 30: The Sound of Freedom

Jonah Hill's "boundaries" are, in practice, misogynistic as all hell

Friday diary 43: How to catch and keep a man

The ACAB case for saying her name

The ACAB case for punishing police obfuscation

TV Tuesdays 29: Silo season one ep two

The ACAB case for public police records

Friday diary 42: Inhabiting my excellence

The ACAB case for community policing

The ACAB case against proactive policing

The ACAB case for hiring more officers

The ACAB case for paying cops more

The ACAB case for weaksauce police reform

TV Tuesdays 27: Shiny Happy People

Happy Juneteenth. Slavery is still legal and happening in the US.

Friday diary 40: I have a boyfriend

Cathy reads books: Manhood by Sen Josh Hawley

Having kids doesn't make people happier

TV Tuesdays 26: Evangelical Christianity and AI

I’m a neoliberal and this is bad neoliberalism

Friday diary 39: Taking time off? What a concept

How AI could fix journalism

One reason the left stays losing

TV Tuesdays 25: Tina

Posing naked for David Nuttall

Friday diary 38: How I did some cool shit

Perhaps not so happy Men's Health Month

For the last fucking time, hookup culture is a myth

TV Tuesdays 24: 60 Songs, The Chicks Earl

Criticizing the military industrial complex isn’t anti-veteran

Friday diary 37: Rupture and repair

Potentially good news for marriage?

Fuck, and I do mean fuck, AI licensure

TV Tuesdays 23: Succession Season 4

Yet another reason to decriminalize work: More babies

Friday diary 36: Getting pumped and dumped

Intensive parenting is about the economy, stupid

Cathy reads books: Man's Search for Meaning

TV Tuesdays 22: Perry Mason

Worry less about teen sex and more about teen loneliness

Science doesn't know how common cheating is, and my personal experience

Why US kids don’t know their history

TV Tuesdays 21: The Good Wife

Some changes

Friday diary 34: Esther Perel is the GOAT

Cathy reads books: The Long Loneliness

Yet another reason to decriminalize work: Less crime

TV Tuesdays 20: Blood, Sex, and Royalty

It's not trauma it's sparkling sexual stigma

The problem isn't poverty. It's precarity.

The Council of Economic Advisers better watch their asses

TV Tuesdays 19: The Last of Us

Wrapping up my porn career

Friday diary 32: Not being his girlfriend is easier

Why men are lonelier than women

TV Tuesdays 18: The CIA and JKF

So I'm doing this Notes thing and you should too

Friday diary 31: Sweet relief

How legalizing sex work impacts sex trafficking

I'm sorry! "Every lonely soul processes the world in their own idiosyncratic way" is an outline!

Every lonely soul processes the world in their own idiosyncratic way

TV Tuesdays 17: Child labor laws are ruining this country

What do you want me to do about it?

Friday diary 30: My first trip back to San Francisco

AI ain't threatening the real intellectuals

Derek Thompson is missing a key driver of teen anxiety

TV Tuesdays 16: Free for All

How US urban planning legislates loneliness

Friday diary 29: Who the hell is this for?

More work, fewer lonely men?

The problem with gun control

TV Tuesdays 15: Sex/Life

How a sweaty armpit can alleviate loneliness

Friday diary 29: No, and

Cathy reads books: Scout Mindset

Compulsory monogamy as sexual socialism for mediocre men

TV Tuesdays 14: Money Shot

Actually, monogamous folks are way more sex-obsessed

Friday diary 28: Sex work thots

Another reason to decriminalize work

Is anyone ever really single by choice?

TV Tuesdays 13: Circus of ex-truckers

Democrats can serve Black voters by holding cops accountable

Friday diary 27: How Courage the asshole roommate helped me realize I'm lonely

Let's do housing racism reparations

Book club: Reclaiming the Mainstream

TV Tuesdays 12: Can a robot be a friend?

Instead of barring Black people, let anyone practice law

Friday diary 26: He's my partner but I’m not his

How to help men: AI for loneliness

How to help men: Decriminalize ALL work

TV Tuesdays 11: Slut-shaming shows, Nazi podcasters, and the truth

Cathy reads books: The Masculinity Manifesto

Friday diary 25: I got dumped and could really take or leave being in love again

Don’t just have more sex

Cathy reads books: Warriors and Worriers

TV Tuesdays 10: The Good Fight

Cathy reads books: Tomorrow, Sex Will Be Good Again

Friday diary 24: I am being a scared little bitch right now

Why smoke shows marry bags of dirty socks among church folk

One weird trick to help men without hurting women

TV Tuesdays 9: That 70s Show

WTF, I'm debating legalizing sex work at Lewis & Clark

Friday diary 23: Social exclusion

Am I happier for all this effort?

How to do mushrooms

TV Tuesdays 8: Otto

Why men won't go to therapy

Friday diary 22: The first boodahole I ever ate

How to be happier in 3 simple steps

Will moving to a dense, walkable city make you less lonely? It depends.

TV Tuesdays 7: Porn for women

I think I solved loneliness

Friday diary 21: I am not a particularly embodied person

Maybe everything really is trauma

Why men don't help out around the house

TV Tuesdays 6: Dry humping

The real reason so many women have given up on dating

Friday diary 20: I really do not miss San Francisco

Men don't make politics worse. Brains do.

How to alleviate loneliness with MDMA

TV Tuesdays 5: Ginny, Georgia, teen sex, class, and secrets

Why boys hate liberalism

Friday diary 19: Free will is hidden in the pause

New new wars of religion?

Is American education biased against boys and men?

TV Tuesdays 4: Two things I loathe about the US government

Controversial sex take: Practice is overrated

Friday diary 18: The worst thing about dating me

The power of one close friend

Loneliness, boys, and Andrew Tate

TV Tuesdays 3: The Rings of Power

Colin Campbell started his own secular religion