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What I refuse to accept about work
Last Friday, in What am I afraid of at work?, I wrote about the first work-themed therapy homework assignment I’d done in a while.
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The Happy Wife School
Reader and friend Claudia asked me to review The Happy Wife School.
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Yes, we punish men more for doing gender wrong
When I tell people that it’s harder to be gender non-conforming as a man, they often don’t believe me.
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January 2025

What am I afraid of at work?
Don’t cancel me, but I think the vast majority of “feminist” writing sucks balls.
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There’s actually a good reason work is so family unfriendly
Narcissism gets a bad rap.
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Our intelligentsia has abandoned our illiterati
I enjoyed the recent Bloomberg analysis of nine podcasters who are “mobilizing America’s men to lean right.”
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The point of politics
Here are two things that I think are true that seem contradictory:
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Femininity is a flex for top-half men
When I write that society punishes men far more for performing femininity than women for performing masculinity, I often get a “huh?” response.
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California sobriety journal
I enjoyed my last adult beverage on November 24th, 2024.
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Yes, male wages explain marriage declines
Back in my day, conservative think tanks would publish content that amounted to “We should shame and/or criminalize poor women into getting married…
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Cathy reads books: Boymom
Before I’d even read the book, Ruth Whippman’s NYT op-ed inspired me to write The New York Times is lowkey anti-gender. I wrote it (as I do many posts…
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No, incels, women are not “too shallow”
When we were in high school, one of my friends got a lot of male attention.
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