Interesting and well written, thanks. Only a small comment about the beginning of the article, when you write "Based on what porn people search for". I have the feeling that porn is too easily associated to sex fantasies. People reasoning about porn make the easiest assumption: who looks at threesome porn wants to do threesome sex, what one prefers in porn is what one prefers in real sex. But... is that always true? Does it always make sense? Sometimes yes, sometimes not. For instance: I'm a man, I like looking at lesbian sex. What does it mean? I like to do lesbian sex? Impossible.... Maybe that means I like to watch lesbian sex, sure. That 's an easy example, only to start separating the "watching" experience from the "doing" experience. The story can go much deeper than that. There are tons of things I like to watch, which I don't want to really do. Or the opposite. I like receiving a blowjob, I absolutely dont like to watch it in porn videos (its so boring). Etc. etc.
The “love isn’t zero sum but time is” hit me on a lot of levels. Well said, and great guideline for those interested in threesomes with their wives...which is a lot different than just having a threesome.
Interesting and well written, thanks. Only a small comment about the beginning of the article, when you write "Based on what porn people search for". I have the feeling that porn is too easily associated to sex fantasies. People reasoning about porn make the easiest assumption: who looks at threesome porn wants to do threesome sex, what one prefers in porn is what one prefers in real sex. But... is that always true? Does it always make sense? Sometimes yes, sometimes not. For instance: I'm a man, I like looking at lesbian sex. What does it mean? I like to do lesbian sex? Impossible.... Maybe that means I like to watch lesbian sex, sure. That 's an easy example, only to start separating the "watching" experience from the "doing" experience. The story can go much deeper than that. There are tons of things I like to watch, which I don't want to really do. Or the opposite. I like receiving a blowjob, I absolutely dont like to watch it in porn videos (its so boring). Etc. etc.
The “love isn’t zero sum but time is” hit me on a lot of levels. Well said, and great guideline for those interested in threesomes with their wives...which is a lot different than just having a threesome.