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That is not a gender issue, I believe you said as much in the intro. My whole life I have wanted to do things my self, and have shunned help, not wanting to be a problem, but in the end we (me) become a bigger problem if we can't deal with vulnerability and accecpt.

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I hope we can be huge problems for each other.

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That was a very good read. Thank you!

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I think my wife and I have both lived this for most of our married life. Me because my family modelled it, my wife because she had to to survive an emotionally abusive step-father. It led to a mostly happy, but fairly shallow and totally sexless marriage. About two years ago, I effectively resolved to be a problem! We are much more connected now ❤

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Yay!!

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OK that backfired on me big time. Without going into the detail, I now wish I'd taken the Xanax, in fact that is probably my only option now.

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I hope you are able to be okay. Proud of you for trying something.

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