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"I started a conversation with one of my favorite exes when I met him at the Birmingham for Ron Paul 2012 meetup by complimenting his Mt Rushmore but it’s Ayn Rand, Milton Friedman, Fredrick Hayek, and Ludwig Von Mises tee shirt."
I just wanted to say that this is officially the most iconically Cathy sentence ever, like there could not be a more Cathy sentence, and I lol'ed. Also, good advice.
in addition to Maya Angelou’s observation, and the suggestion to ask for a favor - borrow a book, recommend a movie, share a contact/website/handyman’s name (which I believe was Ben Franklin’s technique) I have found volunteering (usher at a community theatre, recreational sports, planned parenthood, big brother/sister) to be a very good way of taking that first step to meeting people.
If you want to meet interesting people, be interesting.
Join a political cause you believe in. Serve on the Board of a non-profit. Learn a foreign language and practice with native speakers. Cook food with Food Not Bombs. Learn to dance. Go to an underground rave. Take drugs. Hookup with a stranger. Go to a sex party. Explore your bisexuality. Get arrested for a cause. Learn how to play a musical instrument and join a band. Play at a bar. Learn to sing and join the church choir. Jump out of an airplane. Get lost in the wilderness.
Show up. Show up for life. And in case you are wondering, I have done all of the above at one point or another in my life.
"I started a conversation with one of my favorite exes when I met him at the Birmingham for Ron Paul 2012 meetup by complimenting his Mt Rushmore but it’s Ayn Rand, Milton Friedman, Fredrick Hayek, and Ludwig Von Mises tee shirt."
I just wanted to say that this is officially the most iconically Cathy sentence ever, like there could not be a more Cathy sentence, and I lol'ed. Also, good advice.
in addition to Maya Angelou’s observation, and the suggestion to ask for a favor - borrow a book, recommend a movie, share a contact/website/handyman’s name (which I believe was Ben Franklin’s technique) I have found volunteering (usher at a community theatre, recreational sports, planned parenthood, big brother/sister) to be a very good way of taking that first step to meeting people.
If you want to meet interesting people, be interesting.
Join a political cause you believe in. Serve on the Board of a non-profit. Learn a foreign language and practice with native speakers. Cook food with Food Not Bombs. Learn to dance. Go to an underground rave. Take drugs. Hookup with a stranger. Go to a sex party. Explore your bisexuality. Get arrested for a cause. Learn how to play a musical instrument and join a band. Play at a bar. Learn to sing and join the church choir. Jump out of an airplane. Get lost in the wilderness.
Show up. Show up for life. And in case you are wondering, I have done all of the above at one point or another in my life.