Good stuff as always. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I agree with most of this.
I am not sure that aging works against men finding women to have healthy and happy relationships. It depends on the man of course, but overall as a man’s career progresses and the odds work in his favor, it should be easier for him. My experience is of course biased by my own life where I went from trailer trash to wealthy tech manager in 30 years, so I have cannot consider myself typical. But most older men seem to have no problem finding partners.
Thanks! Yeah I think it's interesting. Men do generally get higher income as they get older. But whether that helps in dating depends on how much a man can connect with a woman who's younger, perhaps significantly so.
There is this huge caveat which I had not initially considered. There is a pretty significant cohort of men who don’t have any success in their careers or in life in general. Exhibit numbers #1, #2 and #3 in my live are my ex-con step-brothers. They are not in a place to be in a healthy and happy relationship with anyone, though the most charismatic of the three does occasionally have a girlfriend.
More men than women are “undateable” especially as we all get older, but that partially is a function of the higher standards women in general have. You have talked about this at length in some of your others columns. Men without a college education have it hard.
Many men are disabled or have criminal convictions that make it hard for them to be considered desirable partners by most. This is especially a problem for poor people who are concentrated in communities of PoC.
This just increases the odds for men who generally meet “dateable” standards.
There is probably and age range, somewhere in middle age, where age works against most men as well.
But as men start dying off, there are many high quality widowers who become available. I have heard that men in old folks homes do just fine, if they still want to date.
Good stuff as always. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I agree with most of this.
I am not sure that aging works against men finding women to have healthy and happy relationships. It depends on the man of course, but overall as a man’s career progresses and the odds work in his favor, it should be easier for him. My experience is of course biased by my own life where I went from trailer trash to wealthy tech manager in 30 years, so I have cannot consider myself typical. But most older men seem to have no problem finding partners.
Thanks! Yeah I think it's interesting. Men do generally get higher income as they get older. But whether that helps in dating depends on how much a man can connect with a woman who's younger, perhaps significantly so.
There is this huge caveat which I had not initially considered. There is a pretty significant cohort of men who don’t have any success in their careers or in life in general. Exhibit numbers #1, #2 and #3 in my live are my ex-con step-brothers. They are not in a place to be in a healthy and happy relationship with anyone, though the most charismatic of the three does occasionally have a girlfriend.
More men than women are “undateable” especially as we all get older, but that partially is a function of the higher standards women in general have. You have talked about this at length in some of your others columns. Men without a college education have it hard.
Many men are disabled or have criminal convictions that make it hard for them to be considered desirable partners by most. This is especially a problem for poor people who are concentrated in communities of PoC.
This just increases the odds for men who generally meet “dateable” standards.
There is probably and age range, somewhere in middle age, where age works against most men as well.
But as men start dying off, there are many high quality widowers who become available. I have heard that men in old folks homes do just fine, if they still want to date.