One nit to pick: "Herb thinks it's a myth that men are 'culturally favored.' Citing men's overrepresentation in early death, disease, suicide, crime, accidents, childhood emotional disorders, alcoholism, and drug addiction. I guess we'll ignore men's advantages in diagnosis and medical research."
Isn't it true that breast cancer research gets significantly better funding than prostate cancer research? More fundamentally, doesn't the discrepancy in men's and women's life expectancy and all-cause mortality demonstrate beyond any reasonable doubt that men are not "culturally favored" as recipients of health care (although they may be culturally favored in some other capacities)?
Men are not dying younger bc the MIC favors women. They’re dying younger bc they have worse habits, put themselves in greater danger, are more likely to kill themselves, take more dangerous jobs, take more risks with their lives, drive more dangerously, and go to the doctor less often even tho they’re treated better than women on average once they get there.
Given the premise that men face social pressure to behave in so many ways that aren't good for them, are you sure that's not an example of victim blaming?
From your Medium essay: "Researchers spend less time and money on illnesses that impact women disproportionately and women are underrepresented in every aspect of medical research." Every aspect of medical research? No. Campaigns against female cancers, for example, receive much more publicity and money than campaigns against similarly deadly male cancers.
It definitely seems like an example of victim-blaming now that you point it out. Ty!
I agree that there are obviously instances where the MIC treats women better than men, as you pointed out. I’d still argue that men are treated better than women on net by the MIC. But at the end of the day I agree that sexism in most institutions cuts both ways. And that it matters less who’s fucked more and it matters more that we just do less fucking over overall.
Oh, and by the way, International Men's Day is this Saturday, November 19. I didn't know it was a thing until the news feed of Just Dance Now told me today.
This brought up three memories from school I had forgotten - I absolutely loved playing jacks with the girls in my 4th grade class - I can distinctly remember a circle of us playing on the floor of the classroom instead of going outside for recess.
As best I can recall, it was 6th grade when I was set up to go on a double date (putt putt with G_____ & C____ ) with a ‘friend’ who didn’t show. We had a great time but it was definitely awkward at school. Neither girl was in the ‘popular’ set. The same young man who set me up for that (even giving me a ring for G____ to show we were going steady) beat me up on the playground later that year. Although smaller than me, I remember clearly his sitting on top of me taunting me.
I had hit a schoolmate who was making fun of me on the bus when I was in 1st grade - I knocked out his tooth and when I got home, ran away to hide in the barn I was so horrified at what I did. I have avoided conflict and physicality since then so I accepted getting beaten up 5 years later as unavoidable.
Given I have one close male friend, and a dozen close female friends, this column DEFINITELY struck a chord and got me thinking about other aspects of my personality and behavior in work, day to day responses, and in the bedroom.
One nit to pick: "Herb thinks it's a myth that men are 'culturally favored.' Citing men's overrepresentation in early death, disease, suicide, crime, accidents, childhood emotional disorders, alcoholism, and drug addiction. I guess we'll ignore men's advantages in diagnosis and medical research."
Isn't it true that breast cancer research gets significantly better funding than prostate cancer research? More fundamentally, doesn't the discrepancy in men's and women's life expectancy and all-cause mortality demonstrate beyond any reasonable doubt that men are not "culturally favored" as recipients of health care (although they may be culturally favored in some other capacities)?
The medical industrial complex still skews heavily in favor of men https://medium.com/@cathyreisenwitz/how-medical-misogyny-replaced-hysteria-with-depression-8381e1757a5e
Men are not dying younger bc the MIC favors women. They’re dying younger bc they have worse habits, put themselves in greater danger, are more likely to kill themselves, take more dangerous jobs, take more risks with their lives, drive more dangerously, and go to the doctor less often even tho they’re treated better than women on average once they get there.
Given the premise that men face social pressure to behave in so many ways that aren't good for them, are you sure that's not an example of victim blaming?
From your Medium essay: "Researchers spend less time and money on illnesses that impact women disproportionately and women are underrepresented in every aspect of medical research." Every aspect of medical research? No. Campaigns against female cancers, for example, receive much more publicity and money than campaigns against similarly deadly male cancers.
https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/prostate-cancer-research-funding-breast-cancer
Whereas female depression is overdiagnosed and overmedicated, male depression tends to go undiagnosed and untreated.
https://www.medicaldaily.com/male-depression-goes-untreated-how-societys-gender-roles-lead-both-sexes-ignore-warning-signs-253107
Let's admit that sexism in medical care cuts both ways, disadvantaging women in some instances and men in some others.
It definitely seems like an example of victim-blaming now that you point it out. Ty!
I agree that there are obviously instances where the MIC treats women better than men, as you pointed out. I’d still argue that men are treated better than women on net by the MIC. But at the end of the day I agree that sexism in most institutions cuts both ways. And that it matters less who’s fucked more and it matters more that we just do less fucking over overall.
Less *metaphorical* fucking, yes.
Oh, and by the way, International Men's Day is this Saturday, November 19. I didn't know it was a thing until the news feed of Just Dance Now told me today.
This brought up three memories from school I had forgotten - I absolutely loved playing jacks with the girls in my 4th grade class - I can distinctly remember a circle of us playing on the floor of the classroom instead of going outside for recess.
As best I can recall, it was 6th grade when I was set up to go on a double date (putt putt with G_____ & C____ ) with a ‘friend’ who didn’t show. We had a great time but it was definitely awkward at school. Neither girl was in the ‘popular’ set. The same young man who set me up for that (even giving me a ring for G____ to show we were going steady) beat me up on the playground later that year. Although smaller than me, I remember clearly his sitting on top of me taunting me.
I had hit a schoolmate who was making fun of me on the bus when I was in 1st grade - I knocked out his tooth and when I got home, ran away to hide in the barn I was so horrified at what I did. I have avoided conflict and physicality since then so I accepted getting beaten up 5 years later as unavoidable.
Given I have one close male friend, and a dozen close female friends, this column DEFINITELY struck a chord and got me thinking about other aspects of my personality and behavior in work, day to day responses, and in the bedroom.
These norms are showed to us and enforced so early in life. I'm so glad you understood the importance of female friends early.