I think single "parents" probably hides the ball a bit. It's usually single mothers. I suspect part of the reason why boys are more delicate is the childhood is a matriarchy. Mom does all the childcare, daycare providers, teachers, babysitters, etc are all women. Men really need to break into childcare, but so often when they do it's viewed with suspicion.
I also suspect that the type of parents who get married are substantially different than those who don't and shoving those parents into marriages won't be a panacea.
I’m struck by this as a male elementary school teacher. It seems to me the women around me tend to be more compassionate with boys than the admittedly small number of elementary school teachers who are slightly more tolerant of girls. Granted small sample size is small.
I don't think the problem is that women hate boys. Sometimes it's exactly the opposite! It's more that being so female dominated biases childhood to a female perspective and boys end up as an "other" even if they are well-loved.
Can you explain "why boys are more delicate is the childhood is a matriarchy"? it doesn't make sense to me. What are dads/male teachers doing to boys, to make them more resilient to poverty (for example)?
Generalizations/stereotyping is interesting and often fun for discussion and can lead to delineation of specific subjects that can be evaluated and defined for the purpose of problem solving or shelving into the "who gives a shit" category. I am reminded of medical/drug studies that draw conclusions of efficacy but fail to say if the subjects studied were smokers, obese or had other co morbidities. We usually ignore as far as planning any change.
I think single "parents" probably hides the ball a bit. It's usually single mothers. I suspect part of the reason why boys are more delicate is the childhood is a matriarchy. Mom does all the childcare, daycare providers, teachers, babysitters, etc are all women. Men really need to break into childcare, but so often when they do it's viewed with suspicion.
I also suspect that the type of parents who get married are substantially different than those who don't and shoving those parents into marriages won't be a panacea.
Completely agree, and if I haven't said it explicitly enough or enough I should.
I was more arguing with right wingers in my head there, lol
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I’m struck by this as a male elementary school teacher. It seems to me the women around me tend to be more compassionate with boys than the admittedly small number of elementary school teachers who are slightly more tolerant of girls. Granted small sample size is small.
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I don't think the problem is that women hate boys. Sometimes it's exactly the opposite! It's more that being so female dominated biases childhood to a female perspective and boys end up as an "other" even if they are well-loved.
Can you explain "why boys are more delicate is the childhood is a matriarchy"? it doesn't make sense to me. What are dads/male teachers doing to boys, to make them more resilient to poverty (for example)?
Just existing as a men and role models, representing male points of view, etc
I don't think that gender is subtle and nuanced but also real and important to people.
I wonder why us boys are more delicate?
Generalizations/stereotyping is interesting and often fun for discussion and can lead to delineation of specific subjects that can be evaluated and defined for the purpose of problem solving or shelving into the "who gives a shit" category. I am reminded of medical/drug studies that draw conclusions of efficacy but fail to say if the subjects studied were smokers, obese or had other co morbidities. We usually ignore as far as planning any change.