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The case for marrying someone you vibe with

The case for marrying someone you vibe with

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Cathy Reisenwitz
Apr 12, 2024
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As I’ve stated, the institution of marriage isn’t necessarily good or bad (kind of like monogamy). But individual marriages can be good or bad. So, how do you get a good one?

I’m a person low in agreeableness. So after reading the headline The Case for Marrying an Older Man I immediately started building the case against marrying an older man.

I’ve spent more time than the average bear thinking about marrying an older man (or two). Older men tend to be richer, and I’m hardly opposed, at least on principle, to marrying for money. I’ve already done things for money, like write about business software and give blowjobs to Republicans, that I wouldn’t otherwise do.

But my mom’s words always echoed in the back of my mind: “Marry for money and you’ll earn every cent.” Plus, I learned very quickly sugar babying that no job can take up as much time and energy as a needy, annoying man.

There are two other (non-money related) problems with older men, at least in my experience. (They’re both the men.)

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