Friday diary 10: Do you both want to be the people you both want you both to be?

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One of the best things about a close relationship is that it has the potential to change you. Being very close to someone else tends to hold up a mirror. Seeing yourself as others see you is one of the best and worst parts of closeness.

I recently wrote and published a whole guide about how to tell, essentially, whether a person is The One.

One thing I didn’t mention in that guide is a question you might want to ask yourself when making these kinds of determinations. And that’s really what the guide is all about, at the end of the day. It’s five areas for discussion, but the central question is: Do you both want to be the people you both want you both to be?