Friday diary 16: Worthy of love part 2, cognitive dissonance boogaloo

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In last week’s Friday diary I started to explain how seeing myself as a fundamentally good person at my core who is worthy of love simply for existing helped me remain at least as good as a person as I was before while also helping me to have a much better time.

But it was bothering me that I hadn’t fully made the connection between thinking maybe you’re a good person deep down and acting like less of a shitbag. Like how, exactly, does the former lead to the latter?